ball-kicking prevention tips

from Fannie’s Room:

And yes, men are also sometimes victims of assault and it’s a good idea for everyone to be aware of one’s surroundings. But that argument ignores the fact that the experiences of men and women are different in Rape Culture. A good flip-flop comparison would be to imagine a world in which women routinely kicked men in the balls really hard for no reason at all, so much so that men wore protective cups on their genitals at all times and, if they didn’t, they knew full well what they were asking for. One wonders, how would men react if the ball-kicking led to the formation of Ball-Kicking Prevention Tips that advised men to never walk alone at night, to avoid dangerous neighborhoods (especially where groups of women congregated), and blamed men for Getting Their Balls Kicked if they chose to move in the world like how people got to move?


things that piss me off

another gender stereotype is proven wrong

from Hugo Schwyzer:

“…studies suggest that the notion that men lack the capacity for empathy — equivalent in degree to that more commonly displayed by women — is simply false. When motivated to put a dormant skill to use, the study suggests men can be every bit as intuitive as women.”

How many other accepted gender differences are merely the result of societal conditioning?


Check out Why is Your Son Wearing Pink? at Mistress Mom- it’s an awesome list of responses to this ridiculous but probably all-too-common question.

I don’t have kids yet, but when I do, I don’t plan on slavishly following society’s arbitrarily prescribed gender norms. What reason do I have to announce to the world my child’s gender as if it mattered? As if gender is a coin with only the two opposing sides?

Growing up, I always hated pink, though I could never articulate a reason for my distaste. The color disgusted me, made me angry. I only realized recently that the reason I hated pink so vehemently was because I am expected to love pink, because I am female. What a disgusting thought. Honestly, when I have children, I don’t know yet how I will deal with all the pink-washed stores aisles of girl-toys (weak and simple and unfit for boys!). Why is it that you can walk down the boy’s aisles and see every color (except weak and girly pink!), but pink is the only color a little girl is allowed?

reblog: “FYI”

from Shakesville by Misty:

“I really, really love it when I’m in line waiting for a customer service type person (CSTP) to assist me and the CSTP completely bypasses me by speaking to a man waiting either in front of or behind me in line–because the CSTP assumes that I must be with the man (as noted in their surprise/apology-like mumblings when I speak up).

Because I couldn’t possibly have my own business to attend to.”